How To Control Emotions:
Your Feeling Don't Have To Control You
Better to be patient than
powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a
city. ~ Proverbs 16:32 (NLT)
you fed up with letting
your emotions get the best of you? Feel like learning how to
Well, "Nothing is impossible with God!"
(Luke 1:37 NLT). With His help, you can finally learn how to
control your negative emotions, and stop letting them control
I used to think that if I were a mature Christian,
I wouldn't have any more negative emotions. I thought that
have a feeling of fear or an emotion of anger once I reached a certain
point in my Christian walk.
But, God revealed
something to me through His Word that I want to share with you today -
The goal is not to be free from emotions. The goal is to be
from their control.
And, truly learning how to control emotions is
possible when you enlist the help of God's Holy Spirit.
You Emotionally Stable
I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even
as thy soul prospereth.
- 3 John 2
There are two parts to this scripture. The first half talks
life prosperity and health. But, the second half talks about
prosperity of your soul.
Many Christians get confused about what
the Bible means when it talks about our souls. But, your soul
up of three parts.
- Your mind
- Your will and
- Your emotions.
God says that He wants you to be prosperous in your soul, your
emotional stability is included. Controlling emotions is a
of God's plan for your life.
God says that:
He who is slow to anger is
better than the mighty,
[own] spirit than
he who takes a city.
-Proverbs 16:32 (AMP)
not want you to be ruled by your emotions. He loves you and
wants you to have the peace
that comes with knowing how to control emotions.
we fall into the trap of thinking that we have no control over how we
feel. We hit a challenging situation, a wave of emotions
over us, and we feel powerless to change it.
our emotions feel powerful, does not mean that they are ALL powerful.
You have the power to overcome your emotions. Just because
you feel them does not mean you have to act on them.
Jesus Shows You How To Control Emotions!
High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for He faced all of the
same testings we do, yet He did not sin. -Hebrews 4:15
Sometimes I forget that Jesus faced the same challenges that we come up
against every day.
But, Satan's tricks don't change. He recycles them
dresses them up a bit, but he has been pulling the same old stunts
since the fall of man. And Jesus had to deal with them just
we do today.
What better way to learn how to control emotions than to look at how
Jesus handled His. In
our Online Bible Class, Who's Controlling Your Thoughts, we take a
close look at a great example of this - Jesus right before
In this class on how to renew your mind and emotions, we talked in
detail about how Jesus knew what His destiny held, and
the battle within that He was fighting.
His date with the cross was growing closer and closer, and
His human emotions began to rear their ugly heads.
We don't have time to go into as much detail about this powerful
example here as we did in the class, but let's at least take a quick
went to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and Jesus said,
Can you even image the
thoughts and emotions that must have been going through His mind?
So, what did Jesus, or savior and example, do
when He realized that His emotions were raising up against Him?
"Sit here while I go and pray." He took Peter, James, and John
with Him, and He
became deeply troubled and distressed.
He told them, "My soul is
crushed with grief to the point of death.."
-Mark 14:32-34 (NLT)
He sought the Father in prayer.
went on a little farther and fell to the ground.
He prayed that, if it were possible,
the awful hour awaiting Him might pass Him by.
"Abba, Father," He cried out, "everything is possible for You.
Please take this cup of suffering away from Me.
Yet I want Your will to be done, not Mine."
- Mark 14:35-36 (NLT)
Jesus' desire was for the torment to be taken away. His
emotions were kicking in, and He wanted out of God's plan.
But, more than
appeasing His emotions, He wanted God's will.
We can learn so much from this passage. Jesus felt the fear,
but He did not allow His emotions to stand in the way of God's
will and God's way.
Our emotions are not the law. In fact, many times the
emotions that we
feel are being manipulated by the enemy to stand in the way of God's
will for our lives. He knows that, if he can keep us bound up
by fear and anger, he can keep us from walking in all that God has
in store for our lives.
Satan tries to plant a thought or emotion in my mind, the first step I
must make is to recognize it as a threat!
It's a threat to my joy, my peace, and my relationship with
I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy,
and you can
walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them.
Nothing will injure
- Luke 10:19 (NLT)
You do not have to bow your knee to the tricks that Satan tries to play
on your emotions. God Himself tells you to "hold up
the shield of faith
stop the fiery arrows of the devil" (Ephesians 6:16 NLT).
So, when you begin to have emotions that are threatening your joy and
peace, or feelings that urge you to stray from God's plan for your
life, do what Jesus did. Seek the Lord in prayer, and ask Him
for the strength to feel those emotions, and do God's will anyways.
The more you ignore your emotions, the less you will feel their
control. Then you will have officially learned how to control
emotions instead of allowing them to control you.
Many Believers struggle daily with thoughts of unworthiness, anxiety,
depression, fear, and the list goes on. I too battled with my thoughts
and emotions for many years. But, that's
not God's will for you! That's why I believe God
led me to create our 7 part online class, Who's Controlling Your
thoughts - To share the same truths He tought me that set me
free. You too
can discover the
plan laid out in God's Word to renew your mind and break free
from the mental strongholds of the enemy.
How to Control Emotions
- Which emotions do you need God's help controlling the
- Why do you think God says that "he who rules his
[own] spirit (is greater) than he who takes a city" (Proverbs
- Have you ever been shocked by the emotions that Jesus
displayed in the garden of Gethsemane? Why do you think God
chose to include this scene in the Bible?
- Why do you think Satan tries to manipulate our
emotions? What are ways that you can stand against him when
he tries those tricks on you?