Christian Woman Need's Help: What is My Purpose?

by Hettie de Meyer
(Bapsfontein South Africa)

I am 46 years old, married, one married daughter and a 22 old son. My marriage is so so. My mother in law lives with us in her own cottage.

I am tired of always having to keep the peace and keep everybody happy. I often feel drained. My husband is emotionally abusive and my mother in law depends on me for almost everything.

How do I get to know my purpose in this life. Can God show me?

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Education NEW
by: Anonymous

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Strength
by: Anonymous

I was there - where you are now.

It was the hardest thing to do - but it is much harder, almost impossible to change other people. A lot less energy goes into changing yourself.

Do not let them make a slave of you. You have every right to being heard and respected.

Stand up for yourself and be strong. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good - not those who drag you down.

Encouragement
by: Sheri

Hello, Hettie.

I want to tell you that God does love you so much and sees the fatigue and pain you are experiencing so you are not alone!

God sees all the work you've done to raise your children. God sees the day-to-day life with your husband and the needs you are meeting with your Mother-in-law. He is with you in all these areas of your life. God has promised in His word to never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6) so be strong and courageous, my dear!

The emotional abuse you have recognized is something you need to see as a tool of the enemy in spiritual warfare. He will try everything he can to discourage you and distance you from your husband, including making him seem absolutely miserable to live with- almost intolerable! You may feel that there is no hope because you have committed to him for life and with the way it feels, it seems more like a life sentence! Do not give up!

First, recognize who the real enemy is- it is the devil, not your husband... he is only the tool to get at you. Now that you know and recognize the enemy, you must use the proper tools to fight the battle.

Second, read Ephesians 6:10-18. Because this is a spiritual battle (that you've already won by the blood of Jesus Christ), you need to use the weapons God has provided for you.

Third, pray the word of God outloud for your husband and your mother-in-law. Prayers like "Dear Lord, I pray for my husband that You have given me that he would not gratify the desires of his sinful nature which is contrary to the Spirit, but that he would be led by the Spirit to exhibit the fruit of the Spirit shown in Your Word in Galatians chapter 5." and "Father, please help me to see the true needs of my mother-in-law. You say in Your Word, according to James 1:5, that if any one lacks wisdom to ask You and You will give it. I'm asking for Your wisdom now in Jesus'name, amen."

Finally, Hettie, as you seek the Father and His Word, He will guide you to know what to do and say. Be strong! The Lord your God is mighty to save!

FROM WHINCE COMMETH MY HELP
by: Anonymous

man!! have i ask myself this so many times over the years!!
one thing i found helpful was reading on many of the women in the bible. i really have a lot of awe and respect for some of them because of how they faced some of my questions!
one i found who handled her husbands mistakes and abuse was abigail!
she even came to david for her husbands life to be spared! he came to respect her so much that when her husband was gone he married her!
i could give you the answers you already know such as prayer etc. which GOD does honer and answer BUT we must come TO HIM with true open hearts, and willing to hear HIM which is not as easy often as it seems or should be!
one thing i would suggest is to get YOURSELF some good trusted christian counseling that is bible based!
sometimes the best place to start is with ourselves even if we do not want to face it !
i hope this helps
GOD BLESS GUIDE AND COMFORT YOU

Yes, God can help you...
by: Ameerah

Hi Hettie,

Yes, God can help you to find your purpose.

God has a specific plan for your life:
"For I know the plans I have for you," says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope."-Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT)

And it is never too late to discover that plan and begin living it!

God loves you, and He wants your life to have Peace
and Joy. He does not want you to fee drained or mistreated.

One of the best ways to discover the path for your life to begin really building a strong relationship with God. Many times we do not realize how much God really wants to build a very close and special relationship with us, but He does. He wants to get to know you and for you to get to know Him. As you get to know Him, you will really be getting to know yourself. He will begin guiding you and showing you who you really are, the things that really make you happy, and your true purpose.

To help you start developing a deeper relationship with God so that He can show you your purpose, I would recommend the free lessons in the Holy Spirit Filled Living Course. They will show you how to connect with God so that you can know what His plan is for you so you can begin really enjoying your life.

I hope that helps. I am sure other women will have some great advice for you as well.

God Bless!
Ameerah
Online Women's Bible Study Group Leader

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