Marriage on the rocks

by Pascaline
(Alpharetta, U.S. A)

I have been married now almost five years, but Sam and myself knew ourselves back in high school about eighteen years ago.

So far, he is not a believer, but was raised by Christian parents.

The marriage from the get go has been on the rocks, and I am so tired and I have been in the court to file for separation. He has been in and out of the relationship, but because I want it to work, he has taken it to another level.

We have three children 14,4 and 18 months old, and he lives in the house without telling me his whereabout. I have felt he has been having affairs, but I do not know the lady and for how long this has been going on, but it definitely breaks my heart and affects everything that I do.

I was not working for a while, but he does not give me a dime, and treats me as a maid.

I need prayers and an advice on what to do, I am so confused.

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by: Anonymous

Why as women do we feel that we can fix these men we married? I can easily relate. My first marriage fell apart quickly and I stayed for 5 years because I felt that is what God wanted me to do. I was left by my husband. I have since remarried. My husband now claims to be a believer in Christ, he goes to church when he can, yet he is verbally and mentally and emotionally absusive to me. He has alot of anger issues and is addicted to prescription drugs.
I am at the end of my rope in knowing what to do. I pray and pray and for a while, things will go very well, then it esplodes all over again and we have these horrible fights. I have had issues with anger in the past. While God has helped me tremedously, I still fail at times and let my anger out, to the which I always feel so horrible afterwards. My husband claims that he has never done anything to put a strain on our marriage and that all our problems are my fault. I would love to just collect my things and leave because I do not feel that God wants that for any of His children. However, I have left several times before only to go back and it just makes matters worse. I have taken responsibility for my actions in making our marriage awful, but my husband refuses to do likewise. I am doing all I can to be a good wife and be gentle and keeo my temper, but my patience is wearing thin and I am not sure how much longer I can keep living this way. I feel I am wasting my life. Perhaps I am stronger than I think...since I've made it this far, but I think everyone has there breaking point. I feel completely lost and hopeless. I feel like such a failure.

Keep the Faith
by: Angie

I will be praying for you. My husband and I have been together for 22 years. We have been divorced twice and married a total of three times, all to each other. He was raised in church but does not currently have a relationship with God. It is very hard but I have become closer to God and will not give up on my husband. He has made huge improvements in the past 22 years. (No longer drinks, has been to anger management classes, and spends more time at home) Don't give up! God can do all things! Keep reading God's word and praying for your husband. Many times I have felt very lonely, so these websites are a great place for encouragement. Sitting alone at church really get me down! Take care and God bless!

Pray for Peace.
by: Anonymous

Pray for the peace that only God can give you and you go on your tremendous journey. I suggest you get this book called the Love Dare and do it. As you become his helpmeet and humble yourself before him- this is a hard teaching- in your humbleness the grace of God is seen. He needs to see the God in you in all that you do. Submit yourself before the Lord and great things will happen to you and yor family. The possible affairs are because his needs are not being met. You can lead this man to the Lord with your prayers and suplications. Please go to focus on the Family and there are several helpful messages on marriage their for you.. Problems in marriage arise from selfishness. Be unselfish and he will soon follow. This will take some seious strenght in the Lord. Pray for his strenght because you will not be able to do this on your own.. Once this path is at the end your blessings will flow so abundantly.. Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In ALL your ways acknowledge him and he will keep your path atraight. Proverbs 3;5-6

God is able
by: Rhonda

I am in a similar situation. My husband has accepted Jesus as is savior but does not apply the word of God to his life. Seek God for peace as you go through this painful experience. Seek God for Godly wisdom and advise. There is not anything we go through that is so big that it would make God say WOW I cannot handle that. May his peace be your guide.

marriage on the rocks
by: Bethany

I know where you are coming from as I too am married to an unbeliever for going on 18 yrs. We have 4 children. There are times when I want to give up; but God has given me the strength to carry on. My children are about grown now & we still go to church together. Stay close to your children, they are what matters. Thank God for His mercy & grace..I put my trust & faith in God..He will show us the way..Keep praying for your husband as I'am still doing..I will pray for you also..As I always say: Let Go & Let God..
There are alot of us out there, so keep us in your prayers too.May the Lord bless you & your family. Sisters in Christ

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God will!
by: Anonymous

I know you love your husband and I wouldn't doubt that he loves you, but he is lost right now and needs to find Jesus. You need to keep praying for his salvation and continue to treat him well, but let him know how you feel whether through a lettter or an e-mail if you don't feel comfortable talking face to face. I don't know your whole situation but in 1Cor. it says that if a unbeliever and a christian are married and the unbeliever wishes to leave then you must allow him to go. But it also says that if the unbeliever does not wishes to leave and is willing to try to change then you must stay with the unbeliever. I will pray for you at this very minute and know that you must seek God for all your answers through prayer and then trust that everything will work out to God's perfect will.

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