Tell on him?

I planned on being married forever, and 7 months later my new husband abandoned me and my child. He was transfered out of state 10 days after we were married, and now I'm thousands of miles away from 'home' and trying to navigate my way back.

He is in the military, and has committed adultery. Adultery is illigal in the military. Furthermore, these women were under his authority and instruction. He is an instructor, they were his students.

it took a lot of bible-searching, and sould searching not to turn-him-in. I knew my agenda was for revenge when I was tempted. He could face jail-time, and be demoted and dishonorably discharged. He's a 4X War veteran, and over a decade in the military. It would also thwart his post-military career goals (also positions of authority). Deut. 32:35 the Lord says vengence is his, that my soon-to-be-ex will slip up quickly, and will get caught, and will be punished. That was all I needed... at first.


Then I became concerned for his students. These women entered into my house, walked past wedding pictures, and committed adultery in my home while I was at work. Maybe he promised them advancement in their career. Maybe they have weak self-esteem issues - I don't know. I don't know if he's the predator, or the one taking the bait. They are all legal-age from an emotional standpoint... but it's safe to say I didn't know who I was marrying. He blind-sided everyone, even his own family. They have even asked "Who IS this man?" I don't know what he's capable of.

He has never laid a finger on me, but became an emotional bully in our marriage, and even worse since he left. I'm afraid if I tell; he will retaliate. I asked my pastor about whether I should tell; and even if I do it annonymously - he'll know I was behind it. I have a child to look after, and she is my world.

I asked my pastor about it, and he said my safety, and the safety and ability to provide for my daughter are #1. Since I would be ruining his entire world; he would have nothing to lose - and those people are the most dangerous. So he said I should just focus on my safety.

I felt okay about it, but I can't seem to be relieved of the concern that he's taking advantage of women. Whether they are the ones going after him, or he's going after them - either way they are in a desperate situation and he's rising to the occasion. Do I stand-by and YEARS later look like Sandusky's wife who could have saved her husbands victims - or do I wait for God?

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