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Christian Husbands

by LaWanda D. Cook
(Glen Burnie, MD USA)

Who Comes First -Tug of War

Who Comes First -Tug of War

Leave and Cleave: The Struggle for Christian Husbands


Prov 18:22 (KJV) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

I want to concentrate on this mandate given specifically to the "men". Many of us have read this passage of scripture countless times; however we have not managed to fully comprehend its meaning. We understand the general meaning which signifies that when we marry, we are to join together as a couple and start a family together; but this scripture states so much more.

1 Peter 3:7 (KJV) Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

During Old Testament times, when a couple married, the woman would leave her family and go to live with her husband's family. However, according to the scripture stated above, God tells the men to leave their mother and father and cleave unto their wives. This would appear to be a contradictory to the women going to live with her husband's family, but let's examine why it is in fact very "on point".

We'll start by looking at an example of women leaving their families to join with their husband's family in Ruth.

Ruth 1:8 (KJV) And Naomi told her two daughters in law to go, return each to her mother's house: the LORD deal kindly with you, as ye have dealt with the dead, and with me. Here we have a situation whereas Naomi's two sons and her husband have died. Naomi bids her two daughter-in-laws to return home to their families.

The reason that God told men to leave their mother and father and cleave unto their wives is because most men have a harder time detaching themselves from their parents, specifically, their mother. Many men are able to physically detach themselves by moving out or joining the military etc., but they struggle with the ability to emotional detach themselves.

The attachment is so strong; it's as if there's an invisible umbilical cord still connecting them. Unfortunately, many men have a difficult time allowing their wives to take their rightful places in their lives because of this attachment. They frequently lack the ability to understand that once they marry, their wives then become first in their lives instead of their mothers. This frequently causes turbulence in the first few years of marriage.

Oftentimes, when a husband and wife have a misunderstanding, it's because of this attachment, men will seek sympathy from their mothers and find comfort on their bosom, so to speak. Likewise, the mother's add to the problem because they feel that no other woman is capable of taking care of him as good as they are. This attitude and action makes it harder for the man to be able to cleave to his wife. The mothers have in some way, assured the man that if things don't work out, they could always return home and Momma would always be there. It is because of this that many men don't realize that they are indeed married until after the first few years of marriage.

1 Corinthian 11:3 KJV But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

The sooner the man realizes that he's married and allows his wife to take her rightful place, and the wife also allows her husband to take his rightful place as head of the house, then they can begin their journey to a joyful, God-lead and productive cleaved union.

1 Cor 11:8-12 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord . For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.

Husbands, keeping these things in mind, let God lead you and teach you how to be the husbands that He has called you to be. Think about your relationship with your wife and consider if you have indeed allowed her to take her rightful place in your life. Likewise, wives support your husbands; don't undermine his authority; especially if he is a God fearing man that's trying to live according to God's Holy Word. Seek the Lord for more patience, understanding and wisdom and I guarantee you that God will not let you down.

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ALL THANKS FOR BRINGING MY HUSBAND BACK NEW
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i am Sandy from UK,last year my husband left me for another woman in his working place and he abandon me and my 2kids, everything was so hard for me because i love him so much, i want my husband to leave the other women and come back to me.and a friend told me about a powerful spell caster doctor called Dr IRABOR of iraborspelltemple@gmail.com and i just contact him immediately without wasting time today my husband is back and he is stick to me forever and i am here to say a very Big thanks and appreciation to you Doc for all you did for me,i and my family are happy more than ever before,email iraborspelltemple@gmail.com for marital assistance.

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A real spell caster that can help bring my lover back. NEW
by: Sam Jennifer

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by: Anonymous

Please delete the first comment as she is talking about how she went to see a spell caster. I think that an be very confusing for people, although the rest of the testimony is good, I don't think it is good to go see a spell caster or whatever she means

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thanks to Dr Ekaka for his help NEW
by: ashley

I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not myself again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr Ekaka. I email ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr Ekaka for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too

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Not Perfectly Wrapped
by: Deirdre

Sometimes we pray and fast for God to send us our very own husband but, He may not send him perfectly wrapped so to speak. Then we become like the people out of Egypt complaining. No I am not telling you to stay in an abusive marriage but I am saying go back to God for strengh to make it through your trail so He can bring you out. This is a daily prayer we must obtain in our lives.

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Realizing what isn't -Cleave to each other
by: Ellis

I ask for prayer for myself and my husband. I pray that the Lord will not only soften his heart to hear these words, but soften his mind so the message will flow through his heart and he will be filled by thethe Holy Spirit.

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Good Article :)
by: Jasanna

Good article!! It IS hard for husbands in the "tug of war."

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Following your man
by: Anonymous

The problem today is that men will not take their place and follow after God so as for me why would I want to follow someone who will lead me in the worldly direction because when it is all said and done, it will come down to God and me and He will ask me if I followed Him or followed the world. If our husbands would step up to the plate and pray, lead us, love us, and follow after God Himself, then who wouldnt follow or allow their husband to lead. It just depends on what direction your husband wants to lead you. If its porn, alcohol, drugs mixing in with the wrong people then absolutely not, I cant follow him in that. if it is Christ he follows and his actions prove that to be seen then absolutely yes get in your place and follow you man.

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Good Advice
by: Sharon

Great advice to a real world situation. Thanks for addressing this little fox that can destroy the entire marriage vine.

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Prayer for continued Grow
by: Anonymous

Heavenly Father,

I thank you that my in laws realize that I truly love my husband. I thank you Lord that my mother-in-law and I get along well. I thank you most of all for continued favor with my in laws and for revealing to me that my temp outbursts had nothing to do with my husband, but with my past. I thank you that my in laws do not get involved in future private discussions; husband leaves and cleaves even though we live next door in Jesus' Holy Name

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CLEAVING ONE TO ANOTHER
by: PAT

LA WANDA THAT ARTICLE WAS FULL OF GOOD USEFUL INFORMATION.I WOULD ADVISE EVERY ONE TO READ LA WANDA'S POSTED MESSAGE I KNOW I WILL READ IT AGAIN KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.
LOVE YOU ALL

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