Strong Christian Marriage

by LaWanda D. Cook
(Glen Burnie Md USA)

This Bible study notebook chronicles LaWanda's Bible Study on building a strong Christian marriage.

About Me...
I am 39 years old, married and the mother of four. My husband and I own and operate No Walls Productions, LLC which is a Christian company established in 2003. Brian's negative experiences in the music field inspired him to create an avenue for artist like himself to record at affordable rates and without the dishonesty, hassles, and politics of the industry. We also have a passion for Pastors and Leaders and have established an Award to honor those leaders that are changing and impacting lives within our communities and homes. This is the Kingdom Ambassador Awards.

Date of Entry: March 3, 2008

Scripture(s):Proverbs 23:7 and Genesis 2:24


My Thoughts...
Marriage is honorable in the sight of the Lord. It was established by God when he created and presented Eve to Adam. However, over the years, the sanctity and requirements of what God ordained as marriage has been twisted and tainted. I have heard countless times over the years that marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper. Unfortunately, that is exactly what married couples have treated their marriage as; something that can be trashed or erased as if it never existed. But just like a piece of paper, after it has been written on, you can try to erase it, but there is always some residue or evidence that something was there. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper. Proverbs 23:7 says- For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he… This holds true in many cases, even in our thoughts on marriage.

Marriage is not a ceremony, it's not a party, and it's not something to do to pass the time away. Marriage is definitely not a green light just to have sex. Marriage is a sacred covenant; a blood covenant. A covenant is the most binding commitment that one can make with another person. This covenant was established between God, one man and one woman in whom God makes certain promises and requires certain behavior from them in return. This is a blood covenant because God gave women a hymen whereas it is to be broken in the first act of intercourse. In the breaking of this hymen there is the discharge of blood. Therefore, the Lord established marriage as a blood covenant.
In today's society, marriage is no longer considered a blood covenant between one man and one woman, but it is a ceremony between two people regardless of gender, to declare their terms of endearment. So I ask the questions, what's next? What do we have to look forward to in marriage? What is the difference between a heterosexual marriage and a homosexual marriage? There is an answer.

Genesis 2:24 tell us; therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh. There is a dimension in sacred marriages that God wants to take true Christian couples to. It's the state of a "cleaved union". Cleaved is identified as bonding together or sticking to someone in fondness and devotion. I like to think that the word cleave derived from the words can't leave. To cleave means much more than physically leaving your family and moving to another residence to share with your spouse. Oftentimes, we leave physically, but remain emotionally attached. When we truly understand and operate in the mindset of joining with our spouse and becoming one with them, it is only then that we can begin to allow God to take us to this dynamic dimension in our God honored marriages.

As you ponder on what has been written thus far, I want you to think about your marriage and your relationship with your spouse. Examine whether or not you have detached yourselves physically and emotionally from your families. Also, think about your relationship with God and His role in your marriage.


Questions it brought to my mind...
What do we have to look forward to in marriage? What is the difference between a heterosexual marriage and a homosexual marriage?


My closing prayer...
Father, as we explore what you have ordained and created for your people and the marriages that you have approved and honored, we ask that you first search our hearts. Search and examine our motives for entering into our marriages. Help us to be honest with ourselves as we deal with those motives and also help us to acknowledge that you know all things. Help us to determine if we are living according to and up to your standards and expectations. Help us to recognize if we are being honest with our spouses and giving them the best of ourselves. If we are lacking in any way or misguided in any thoughts, create a new and right spirit within us. For your word declares in Romans 12:2...to be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of our minds, that we may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of you. We thank you in advance and declare in done in the name of your son, our savior himself, the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.